The Truth About Running & Chasing

 

Running & Chasing in the Twin Flame dynamic.

Many of us on the twin flame path are aware of the runner/chaser dynamic which is a result of fear-based “karmic” programming we often have picked up from parents, the people around us and a lack of self-love and respect from toxic people and environments. 

It’s not “meant” to be a part of the Twin Flame Union process but often is, because it was something learnt from Karmic relationships and patterns. When we still have karmic wounds to heal, Twin Flames will trigger and push each other away to heal enough to come back together for the next round of healing until eventually they are healed enough to come together and heal / work through residual stuff in Union.

There is the misconception about the Runner / Chaser dynamic though. Contrary to what we are often taught, we are not really running away from or chasing our Twin Flames.

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Seeking What We Already Have

We often chase after what we think is lacking in our lives, like love, affection, attention, validation, respect, money etc.

When we focus on what we already have, and what we have within we begins to realise we either already have what we desire or we have the means to access / bring it into our lives without chasing out of fear and desperation. So when we think it is our Twin Flames we “lack” we are not chasing THEM but the FEELING we desire from being with them - the feeling of love, which makes us feel real, connected and whole within. 

But many of us have experienced that feeling of Twin Flame love even without the physical aspect of them being around us because we often feel them energetically. That love is ENERGY and the physical form is a part of the EXPRESSION of that energy. Our role is to follow those feelings of love, whether that’s focusing on our own stuff, or following the pull to be with our twin flames in some way, at any given time. How we express our love for our Twin Flame, also comes through how we express love for ourselves (self respect, self care, self compassion, self kindness etc).

When we RUN from our Twin Flames what we often run from is the fear of more of the same trauma or abuse we have endured in karmic dynamics thinking the twin flame dynamic is too good to be true, when in reality is meant to be the baseline NORMAL for us. Whenever we show up in the Twin Flame connection trying to play out old karmic programming it will only push you apart again until you learn to see those patterns and heal them so you can connect from love and not out of fear, or trying to control things.  

I have spent 16 years working through heaps of karmic wounding from this lifetime and previous ones, and it is only recently I feel like Union is truly starting to happen for real, although in truth we are already “together” on a Soul level. The mind is what causes separation by believing things that keep us apart in the psychical that do not align to the truth. But that is were free will comes in. We still have to CHOOSE love in every moment, which means choosing ourselves so we can choose our Twins out of love and not fear.

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Acknowledge Your Fears

Fear exists to protect us from harm, but when we stay stuck in old fears they become destructive causing the very situations we hope to avoid. 

It helps to ACCEPT your fears as valid because they exist for a reason - like ego, it protects but can get misdirected. These parts of us have a place and by honouring them rather than rejecting them you will find more peace within yourself and help alleviate blocks to union. Allow fear to show you the problems, but let your higher mind and self resolve those issues out of love.

If you would like my support in your Twin Flame journey and would like to know how past influences are impacting you now and how to deal with them going forward into Union please book a reading with me! 

Blessings

Bex

Blocks To Union: Shame

Blocks to Union: Shame

Like any feeling shame exists for a reason, and it indicates somewhere our boundaries were violated. Perhaps we didn’t have the awareness, capacity, ability to recognise or enforce those boundaries, or what happened to us was so terrible we couldn’t be prepared but we turned the blame inward instead of seeing it for what it was. Acknowledge your shame and listen to it, as in WHY it exists, and accept it, but then you can counter it with truths and loving talk - and if needed learn the emotional skills to deal with the cause or guard against future incidents. If the shame is from something YOU did to violate another’s boundaries, do what you can to make it right, apologise, heal and if it’s not accepted or a dynamic ends / changes because of it know you did the best you could to repair and move on… sitting in shame helps no-one and moving through it with understanding and compassion will help you heal and move towards union 🔥💖🔥 

To help transmute shame and blocks to Union try out my Cosmic Diamond Violet Flame Transmutation Meditation (Music Only) where you visualise the energy of the flame burn away what is no longer desired or needed in your energy and transmute it into better things for you (and your Twin Flame)

New Product Announcement: Oracle Cards

Over the course of a couple of days this week I put together a fun simple deck of cards to play with - you can buy them online here - the cards have full meanings written on the back, no booklet. I will do more blog posts about combined meanings and interpretations in the future, but of course you can read them intuitively how you like as well. 

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Twin Flame Reading: Full Moon March 14th

During this moon phase you will likely see manifestation of what you asked for / focused on during the past moon cycle and hopefully it will be what you desired over fears and what was unwanted! Either way you get to see what has been hidden and is ready to come to light at this time, before harvesting the rewards and deciding what next in upcoming moon cycles.

The Hermit (reversed)

At this time, there may be a feeling of pervasive loneliness as you feel the sting of separation from your Twin Flame, and you haven’t successfully yet managed to “manifest” union, perhaps only more of the same single lonely life you have been experiencing for a while, or desiring real love whilst trapped in a karmic relationship also making you feel lonely. The mirror between Twins is the same at the core level - both feel lonely and are seeking love outside of themselves in each other but there is a need to flip the script and focus on the inner love to manifest the outer love of your Twin Flame - you do not need to seek what you already have within - their love. Notice the love of your Twin and accept it to help you clarify your own inner truth and next step as no one else can tell you what that is at this time, this is for you to discern intuitively and act upon as necessary. 

Twin Flame Reading: Gibbous Moon Phase March 8th

 

As we enter Marches Gibbous Moon on the 9th, it’s time to review how things are going and refine the process if things aren’t quite right before building momentum into your desires coming up to the full moon on the 14th.

Unsurprisingly we have the Emperor reversed, which indicates patriarchal and harmful karmic energies - from inner distorted immature masculine issues to outward events played on the world stage as seen with the examples of Trump, Musk, Zuckerberg and many many more, we are being asked to question our own attitudes towards the feminine energies within us, and where we are handing our power over to others thus leaking energy and robbing us of our own autonomy. It’s time to take responsibility and accountability in our lives, rather than holding onto a victim mentality (not the same as being a true victim!) and start making empowering choices to lead us away from those that would harm us. From controlling bosses, to abusive karmic partners, things may come to a head soon if we do not review and refine our approach to life and our desires especially when it comes to union with our Twin Flames. If things are going okay or better for you, you may be asked to watch out for these things potentially popping up to challenge you, but ultimately avoiding them by taking right action to lead you towards love will keep you safe. 

If you are struggling with your situation and need some advice from Spirit on how to deal with karmics, you can book reading with me.

Twin Flame Reading: “Eat Pie"

Take a break from “twin flame stuff” when you feel this resonates by chilling out and relaxing doing fun stuff, playing games, hobbies etc to help you re-align to yourself. Be in the now and you’ll find your Twin Flame can connect with where you are at rather than “chasing your energy” constantly trying to catch up!

Did you see men in black 3 when Agent K told Agent J to take a break from the problem and go and eat pie at a cafe? Then what they needed turned up when they were there!

You need the space to get your energy up and back into alignment with your inner being, then you’ll be ready to be with your Twin Flame and move into deeper union with them. Once you have chilled enough you may find they come to you, as you are open, relaxed and receptive enough to allow them in a positive way. Then you can go from there!

Side note, you may want to buy yourself a funky rainbow mug similar to this for one extra feel good vibes! I bought one from Amazon that’s super cute! FYI I don’t get paid for recommending this! https://amzn.eu/d/2vat19Y 🌈 ☕️